Tissues, hot tears,
gentle chokes of words never said and gratitude never given.
I was a mess.
We left that Friday
night. The ride was long, but the sobs remained muted in lieu of the laughs and
memories filling the car. It was March. Chilly still- Pennsylvania weather. The
salt on the ground let out a satisfying crunch as we made our way out from the
enclosed doors of our newfound safe haven into the wind and bite of a reunion
no one wanted to attend.
My flats chewed at my
ankle until it was red and raw– such a perfect state of miserable for the
weekend ahead. The gentle crunch of snow and ice and weather came to a stop as
we stepped up the wooden staircase and through posts large enough to hold the
sky. The house lights created a dim glow on our faces as we crawled inch by
inch to the wooden door with an elegant doorknob. A man welcomed us in, dressed
in black, asked to take our coats. I left my phone in my pocket; I would not be
needing it, nor did I have pockets in my dress. To the left of the doorway was
a massive coat closet. It makes sense. This place can never be continuously
busy, yet when the time comes I imagine hundreds can flood those this heavy
door. It is a small town, after all.
To the right was an
office, and before me a staircase. No stairs for this event. With townspeople
as old as the revolution and families as swollen and stagnant as these, the
upstairs was left vacant. Dry smiles and wet eyes emerged as a result of our
arrival. We were lead down a hallway into a room- sans windows- filled to the
brim with flowers of every kind and windchimes. I scanned the room for birds,
birdhouses, feathers, trees, anything. Nothing.
. .
.
Saturday morning was not
anticipated. This Saturday morning.
What were we doing here?
We got there early, as
expected. 12 feet shuffled into the massive doorway once again, greeted by the
man doorman, same suit, same broken smile from too many years of seeing
melancholy into this house. The windowless room was dimmed; there were rows of
chairs set up facing the back of the room.
There she was: hair
curled, best blouse, color in her cheeks I had never seen before. Her wedding
rings sparkled in the spotlight shining down onto her like she was an angel.
She was an angel.
Family and friends from
far away and far too close trickled in. Empty pleasantries. I did not know any
of them, but they all knew about me. I sat down in an empty chair, of course in
the front row, to take it all in. I watched every person march down the aisle
and shake hands, sorrow on their faces. They all knew her. They all knew me.
This town was as tightly knit as her favorite sweater, the one with flowers and
birds on it. Nobody skipped a beat.
Things eventually
quieted down. People took their seat; mine next to me and theirs next to
theirs. The man in black stood before us, books in hand, heart on his sleeve.
He started to speak. Each word made the pool in my eyes grow until it was an
ocean, overflowing with sentiment and memories. The looks around the room made
my heart heavier with every nose blown and tear wiped. He sat down and welcomed
another up, from the front row of course. She read us poems and reminisced on
their time together, their time apart, and all the time in between. I listened
patiently with intense ears and a growing need to soak in every recollection. I
tried to pair the two together: what I knew and what I was learning.
We made our rounds from
the back of the room to the crowds of people to the sofa chairs surrounding the
television. A slideshow of pictures played, all of them showcasing happier
times and sunnier days. I cannot say I recognized the lady in those pictures,
grin as wide as the sun and eyes twinkling with humor. I saw her as a young
lady, as a mother. That smile never faltered, but it was a smile I did not
know, a smile that was not familiar to me. I saw her with her friends, sat at
the table with cookies or drinks or kids. I saw her with her kids, too. In church,
at school, at home: next to the fireplace, the big couch, the bay window that
seemed all too foreign to me now. I circled the room, conversation to
conversation, picking up bits and pieces of a woman so renowned yet so distant
from me.
I tried to recall her
smile– in the last few years. It had an unapologetic, almost childlike
amusement to it. I could picture her eyes staring up at me: dainty, but a blue
the color of the ocean. The laugh lines spoke almost as much as she did, never
quiet, never holding back.
I found myself going
back to the slideshow. The pictures of days this town chose to remember, to
cling to. I never knew the woman in these pictures, but everyone else did. They
knew me, they knew her, I was the one out of my element. It was a small town,
after all.
People began to file
out. One could only spend so many hours in that room, no matter how dressed up
with flowers. Soon it was just us, our 12 feet standing before the spotlight,
silence. Hands rubbed my back from hugs not long enough and tears stained my
shoulder, mine or not. 8 feet made their way towards the hallway, the office,
the grand doorway. 4 feet stood before the flowers, the lights, the perfect
lipstick and sparkly earrings and eyes closed. My eyes closed. Tears travelled down
my cheeks to my chin, down my neck to my sweater. Pennsylvania weather. She
looked peaceful, no grin plastered that I did not recognize, but a blank
expression, a humbled expression. Only one light remained in the dim, now dark
room. The shined white reflected, illuminating my flats, my dress, her
belongings. I was handed her bracelet, the one I made her, the one she kept at
her bedside, no matter where she was living. Ribbon and beads. Flower beads.
Purple. I wiped the remaining tears from my ducts and placed it right next to
her. Side by side, now forever.
I was not okay.
My eyes made their last
rounds. Her face, her bed, the flowers. By her feet sat a bouquet- roses and
buds and ribbon.
And attached to that
beautiful bouquet, all those vibrant flowers reminding us all what she was not
anymore, was a purple pastel ribbon, thick enough to allow us to see the
writing from the back of the tight, yellow room.
Grammy Jane.